Imagine that right now, right here, todayÖ there is within your grasp not one but several opportunities to redesign specific aspects of your life so that the sum total is a life you absolutely love. Then imagine that the only thing standing between you and your opportunities is a closed mind, fear, habits, concern, worry, drama, or perhaps mental, physical, and emotional clutter. Do you know what a default is? Itís what you get when you donít choose to get something else and for most of us a default life is average and mediocre with sprinkles of joy in between. A default life is living for the weekend. A default like is hanging on Ďtil retirement. A default life is waiting for the kids to grow up, move out, and finish college. A default life is waiting, and waiting, and waiting for things to get better somedayÖone day.
Most people donít accidentally have a great life, a great job, a great marriage, a great body, or great children. I donít know about you but I am not touched, moved, or inspired by mediocrity. I donít aspire to live an average life, with an average job, and celebrate twenty-something anniversaries in an average marriage. My spirit longs for relationships and experiences that cause me to love deeply, grow profoundly, and see the magnificence in all of life. I canít have that kind of life if I am settling for the default. My name is Robin Harris and I am a coach, an author, a certified Highlands Natural Abilities Counsultant, and I am the CEO of DesignerLife, a transformational business dedicated to helping individuals live by design; not by default. And today I just want to talk to you about designing a life you absolutely love. I call it the DesignerLife.
Whatís a DesignerLife? Think of a piece of art that is not only beautiful but extremely functional. Just like a beautiful warm and cozy home provides sanctuary and focus for a family, a DesignerLife provides sanctuary and focus for the soul. Just like each room in that house has its own motif and purpose, each area of the DesignerLife has its own motif and purpose. Just like all of the rooms together, even the hallways and pantry make up the house, all of the areas of our lives make up the DesignerLife. A DesignerLife has been lovingly designed and architected to honor your best and your highest good and it includes spiritual hallways and pantries, too. Mmm, it sounds wonderful, doesnít it?
I want you to consider a show home that has never been lived in. Everything is just so beautifully pristine and sterile. Thatís because itís for show but when the family moves in they bring their energy, their style, their nuances, their touch and the house becomes a home. Itís not perfectÖbut it is. Itís not immaculate buts itís naturally inviting. The DesignerLife is a life you design that is natural, expanding, and very, very inviting not only to you but to other sojourners, also. We have so long been looking to the system, the companies we work for, the businesses we have built, the country we live in to sustain our way of life. Today is a new day, and the comfort of what we knew has passed away, itís time to excavate, renovate, and develop our most precious resources: our soulís dreams, our natural gifts, and our talents. Itís time for us to evolve to the next level and some sojourners are going to go kicking and screaming, and some wonít go at all. You probably thought the creation was completed millions of years ago, oh no. Humanís are still in process and every so often life says ďhold on, wait a minute, itís time to shift and leap babyĒ. You can plod along for only so long before life demands that you run fast or get eaten. The new paradigm is not for survivors, itís for thrivers; people who are ready to unleash their potential into the world.
You see, the magnificent being that you are is not your doing. You didnít design it, you didnít create it, so there no reason to be arrogant about it. Itís a gift. Donít just say thank you. Gratitude is only the beginning, thereís also a measure of responsibility and accountability that fall on the shoulders of the gifted. And we all are gifted. It is our responsibility to nurture our magnificence, to develop it, and express it profoundly in the world that we live in. Your magnificence is not only going to give you a life you love, itís going to touch, move and inspire others. Divine intention will have your be great in ways you cannot even imagine. Divine intention will have your biggest mistakes sow seeds of wisdom and contribution to other. Divine intention will have you become the student and the teacher in lifeís next evolution. The next evolution will have human beings manifest the Creatorís abundant, loving, creative nature.
What would it look like to have a life you absolutely love? When you really think about it, I mean see it with your minds eye, in living Technicolor, it should be so awesome it sends chills up your spine. Iím not talking about a superficial life where people are pretending to be happy, pretending that the marriage is working, pretending that the kids arenít driving them crazy, pretending that life is in order when chaos is actually the king. Iím not talking about having more, more, more while feeling less, less, less. Iím talking about a life where your soul is satisfied. This is a life where you have peace of mind, finances in order, and a healthy mind, body, and spirit. This is a life with relationships that inspire and stimulate you, intimacy that heals and thrills you, and family and community for mutual love and support. This is a life complete with meaningful and fulfilling work that uses your gifts and talents and honors your uniqueness. This is a life where there is adequate time for self-nourishment, self-investment, fun and relaxation. AndÖ this is a life where you receive an abundance of joy by contributing to the well being of others who are on the planet with you now, as well as those who will be coming in the future.
I canít tell you the details of your DesignerLife. I canít tell you how living a life you absolutely love will show up for you. I only know that the process of designing that kind of life will rock your world. I know somebody out there is saying, pfff you must be dreamingÖ and my response is ďyes, and your point isÖĒ
You see if it were left up to the practical people, the realists of the world, weíd still be huddled in a cold cave without a fire to warm us. Iím not just a dreamer, oh no: Iím a possibility chick with a plan. You see a designer life is not just about dreaming about it, thinking about it, longing for it, hoping for it, praying for it. A DesignerLife is about intention; the kind of intention that produces action, the kind of action that produces results.
The road less traveled is full of uncertainty, but the other road, the popular one can only take you where youíve already been. Having an extraordinary life, a life you absolutely love is gonna seem like way too much work to the average person. Itís not going to appeal to the person courting mediocrity. Itís not going to excite the person who is content with waiting for some day, one day. It doesnít call to the practical or the realist. So if you fall into one of these categories, cover your ears cause this message isnít for you. Iím talking to the people who caught a glimpse of possibility for their own life, for the sojourners who are ready to unleash their potential out in the real world, and for the people who canít stand the thought of settling for the default life.
The message I want to bring to you is simple. Your most challenging obstacle is not the present or past circumstances of your life, the things you did or didnít do, itís not your age, your gender, your race, itís not the naysayers or critics or the practical realist who are convinced your dreams and aspirations are a waste of time, oh these are all challenges to be dealt with on their own terms but by far the biggest challenge you will face is your own self doubt, lack of commitment, and fear. Getting over yourself is the single most forwarding action you can take to move toward your own magnificence. I want to ask you for a huge favor and here it isÖGet over yourself and just be magnificent.