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Passion Vs. Detachment By Steve Taubman

As a student of success for many years, Iíve become familiar with the idea that we need to generate a passion for our goals, a burning desire to see them brought to fruition. Yet, as a student of spirituality, Iíve spent a lot of time embracing the idea that desire is the root of all suffering. With desire, says the Buddha, comes clinging and aversion, the two seeds of discontent which imprison our souls and keep us striving for yet never achieving real happiness. Similarly, success trainers tell us we must live in the future, drawing clear and vivid pictures of the reality we want to create, while spiritual teachers tell us we must live in the present moment, for thatís all there is. How do we resolve this dilemma and find a path that leads us to happiness and contentment?

One way is to choose camps, that is to decide that youíre an advocate of one or the other philosophy and accept the inherent dictates of that view.

If youíve chosen Buddhism as your path, youíll guard against any flowering of desire within you, witnessing each desire with detachment, affirming its transience, and ultimately letting it go. Your desires will not cause you to react by taking action towards their attainment, since your path is one of extrication from the whims and wills of the mind, and your happiness will be derived from the conquering of desire inherent in your renunciation of the object of that desire. Youíll seek happiness in the here and now.

If youíre a student of success strategies, youíll actively seek a clearer connection with the part of you that has desire. Youíll then draw vivid pictures of your future happiness, including the objects of your desire in the pictures. Youíll develop a passionate, almost obsessive intention to accomplish your aims, reasoning that itís the acquisition of your goals that brings about happiness. Youíll work diligently towards the attainment of your objectives and wonít allow yourself to be content until youíve achieved your aims.

I believe thereís a third way to proceed. Itís a synthesis of the two extremes. Let me explain. In my view, cultivating inner peace is a high priority, and experiencing happiness unconditional upon the absence or presence of a particular circumstance is essential to mental health. Therefore, I practice detachment and observe my desires without feeling that they demand attention or acquisition. I imagine myself to be a kindergarten teacher, and my desires are the desires of the little kids in the class. I watch them get excited and enjoy their passion, but Iím not caught up in it myself. Still, I want to have fun, so sometimes Iíll decide to play with the kids. Iíll get just as passionate and excited as they are, and Iíll play the game completely, hoping to win. That means that, at times, Iíll take on a goal and get passionate about its attainment. Iíll commit to its completion, work diligently, and dream of the day Iíve manifested it. Iíll become a bit obsessive and driven and look for all the ways that the universe becomes involved in helping me achieve my goal.

Since Iíve been practicing detachment and present time consciousness, however, I wonít lose sight of how Iím feeling right now. Iíll check in with myself and notice whether or not Iím getting out of balance. If Iím far out into the future and becoming intent on a particular result as a condition of happiness, Iíll pull back and stop or slow the game. If I find that Iím developing an addiction to certain conditions being met, Iíll meditate, pray, walk, or do anything but pursue the goal. Iíll remind myself that itís just a game, and that the outcome has no more significance than that which I give it.

I practice spirituality because it reminds me that there are no conditions necessary for my happiness, and that this moment is perfect, exactly as it is. I set goals because it offers me the chance to create. Creation is part of our birthright. Plus, in setting goals, I have a structure within which I can live, love, and play. I find that very comforting.

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