It is always a wise practice, to learn from the mistakes of others, but it is also wise to learn from our own mistakes. Failure, stress, and depression, all have one common link. That is the link within your own mind. You cannot afford to cultivate a negative mindset, even for a moment.
Blaming, comparing, and contending are tasks that occupy the negative mind-set most of the time. Powerful emotions like fear, jealousy, envy, and greed, put us into a negative thinking “tail spin.” Worse yet, this can occur quite suddenly and without just cause.
The result being, that we hurt others around us, without thinking about the end result. All of a sudden, we forget to assess the situation, and react, without considering the consequences. So what is the solution?
All of us are “wired” differently, as far as emotions are concerned, but we all have them. For some of us, emotional outbursts are routine, while others show no reaction to stressful conditions. How do you learn to control your emotions?
You don’t have to. They will be under your control, if you learn to look at every tough situation as a learning process. In fact, none of us has control over the universe. We impact it in a small way through our actions, but we cannot control natural disasters or “Acts of God.”
You have to learn to accept, “the glass as half full,” all of the time. If you fall down, you must pick yourself up and move forward. Don’t trouble yourself over past mistakes. Learn from them and put them behind you.
Find solutions and opportunities within your problems. Don’t be afraid to take a calculated risk or make a mistake. Try new things, learn to meditate, and ask for help when you need it.
One last point to mention, about asking for help; it is much easier to ask for help, when you have been helpful, in the past. Helping people will make you feel better about yourself, but it will also form strong relationships. Everyone appreciates a “helping hand” and when you need help, it won’t be hard to find.
Alliances and “master-mind” groups get more done than a “lone wolf.” Remember the saying “The Whole is Greater than the Sum of its Parts.” If you are immersed in collective thought, you may not have to find all the answers, solutions, and opportunities, alone. As a group you will find them together.