Becoming successful is not easy. We all get tossed around somewhat in our attempts to win or succeed. Learning opportunities are usually created by the “I-Blew-Its”.
The biggest challenge you face in overcoming the “I-Blew-Its” is whether or not to curl back up into a ball or seize the day and learn from your mistakes and failures. The choice is yours.
Turn Failure Into Learning Opportunities
Here are a few tips if you choose to use your “I-Blew-Its” as opportunities for personal growth:
- Assess The Situation. Identify why you are uncomfortable – Were you unprepared? Did you misread what the client wanted? Did you not perform up to your usual standards?
- Admit Your Mistake. Confess to yourself that it could have been worse. Try to be objective and look at all sides of the issue. If you take a big picture perspective, then it will not seem as bad as you think.
- Don’t Panic – Move On. If you’ve made an honest error or mistake, then apologize and make reparation where appropriate. The worst thing you can do is to obsess about it.
- Do Something That You Love. Now is a good time to enjoy your favorite hobby. Go to the movies or call your best friend.
- Analyze Your Successes. Identify commonalities from your successes and why this time things didn’t work. The important thing is to focus on the positives.
- Find A Mentor Or Coach. We who are self-employed often work alone without outside input. As a result, we can become isolated or too introspective. A mentor or coach can provide objective and honest feed back.
- Celebrate each accomplishment. For starters, at the end of a successful week simply treat yourself by doing something you enjoy.
If you choose instead to nurse a sense of failure by curling up into a fetal position while lamenting your sad state, make sure you are well-stocked with tissues, a warm blanket, and your favorite drink. Enjoy your private pity party. No one else will come (even if you invite them).